A non-library issue - Marriage Rights for All

I responded to a Facebook comment that disturbed me. Yes, this is typically a library blog. Seeing as how I've now been out of libraries a year, I say it's time to blog about whatever I want. :)

A family member posted a comment to her status regarding a Fundamentalist Mormon reality television show and somehow same sex marriage came up. The angst seemed to stem from the word marriage for same sex couples. I responded with questions:

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How does calling same sex marriage a marriage something that is wrong?
How is marriage only limited to a man & a woman? How does 2 men or 2 women who want to have their commitment recognized by the state threaten or effect your ma...rriage?
No other heterosexual couples' marriage diminishes the meaning & value of yours to your husband.
Why is it that heterosexual couples can marry & divorce faster than you can say "Britney Spears" and not two other people who have been together for 20 years already?
I have a lot more questions on this subject because it boggles my mind that 2 people who love each other cannot get married. Marriage rights for all is something I care about significantly. I hope I can learn more about what your thoughts are on this rather divisive issue...and I am grateful you have such a wonderful husband/father of your children/partner/lover/and all the rest of what Ben means to you.
Please think about a couple that has that same love for each other...but they just happen to be gay.
How is celebrating love so wrong? 
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This was my response to her comment. When one states that it is merely their opinion and does not back it up with why, I provide more information in the hopes of education, thereby squashing fear. It is only through communication and education that this society can flourish and grow.

My response:

I understand not wanting to get into a long debate. Regardless, I would like to address your points and ask more questions. Indeed, the way we think is quite different from each other. Nevertheless, I love you and respect our differences. I value your opinion and I believe that it is through discussion that we can grow and learn as individuals.

Firstly - what would my opinion on the Arizona law SB 1070 matter? It is a completely different issue. This is a discussion about why people/fellow citizens of this country should not be discriminated against and be allowed to marry. Note - to tie it back into the Fundamentalist Mormons - I point to Warren Jeffs, taking *children* and forcing them to marry adults.
We're talking about consenting adults that love each other and want to marry. - How would you feel if your marriage was put to a vote or suddenly nullified because other people just didn't agree that using the word marriage was wrong in the case of you and Ben?
- What are your thoughts on interracial marriage? - It was not too long ago that blacks and whites were not allowed to marry.

Why does the word 'marriage' upset you? It is the legal union of a couple as spouses.  The basic elements of a marriage are: (1) the parties' legal ability to marry each other, (2) mutual consent of the parties, and (3) a marriage contract as required by law.
- taken from: http://topics.law.cornell.edu/wex/marriage
The rest is something that is tied to a rather unfortunate lack of separation of church and state.

What does salt and pepper have to do with it as well? Let's see if we can call salt (same sex marriage) pepper by the above legal definitions.
1 - Right now, it's legal in Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Vermont, and Washington, D.C., and - well...California, again.
(Bringing it back to the Mormons - Millions was raised and spent by out-of-state Mormons who wanted to interfere in the private married lives of Californians. I know that I don't make campaign contributions to representatives from other states because, it doesn't affect me. Why would anyone worry about what other people in another state are doing with regards to marriage??)

States which recognize same-sex marriage but do not grant same-sex marriage licenses: New York, Rhode Island, and Maryland.

- So that ticks off #1 - in the places where it is legal, it's a marriage!

2 - Consent. These people want to get married and create a binding and legal contract to celebrate their commitment and love for one another. This fulfills #2 above.

3 - Obtaining a marriage license involves the consent question above and in some states a test for STDs. The signing of the license is the marriage contract. Everything else in between is up to the couple. But boy howdy, does it make it easier to obtain the over 1,000 benefits that come with marriage.

Here are a few of the 1,138 benefits the United States government provides to legally married couples:
      Access to Military Stores
      Assumption of Spouse’s Pension
      Bereavement Leave
      Immigration
      Insurance Breaks
      Medical Decisions on Behalf of Partner
      Sick Leave to Care for Partner
      Social Security Survivor Benefits
      Sick Leave to Care for Partner
      Tax Breaks
      Veteran’s Discounts
      Visitation of Partner in Hospital or Prison

Here are a few of the state level benefits within the United States:
      Assumption of Spouse’s Pension
      Automatic Inheritance
      Child Custody
      Crime Victim’s Recovery Benefits
      Divorce Protections
      Domestic Violence Protection
      Exemption from Property Tax on Partner’s Death
      Insurance Breaks
      Joint Adoption and Foster Care
      Joint Parenting (Insurance Coverage, School Records)
      Medical Decisions on Behalf of Partner
      Certain Property Rights
      Sick Leave to Care for Partner
      Visitation of Partner in Hospital or Prison
The full list of benefits is here:
http://www.gao.gov/archive/1997/og97016.pdf

I am bisexual. Here's the latest definition from the American Psychological Association: “Bisexual persons can experience sexual, emotional and affectional attraction to both their own sex and the opposite sex." I can and have loved both men and women - not necessarily at the same time! It means that while I'm not required to love the same gender or even the opposite gender - I do. I was born this way.
It does not mean I should have to jump through hoops and legal battles if I am fortunate to find love and want to marry a woman. Heterosexual couples do not have to do this.

Much like freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose...marriage is an opportunity to tell the world that this person, my partner..my love is who I want to spend the rest of my life with. What is wrong about love?

I hope you are having a good summer as well and I hope that I've shared some information that may help you to understand why this issue matters to me.

ALA Election Time! (VOTE NOW!!)

As an ALA member, I am grateful for those on ALA staff that work for me. That sounds pretty egotistical of me to say but they're also working for you too. Mary Ghikas, John Chrastka, Jenifer Grady, Jenny Levine, Lois Ann Gregory Wood...the list goes on and on.

Mary Ghikas has been emailing the ALA Council email list daily with information regarding the election which is currently underway! (VOTE NOW!!)


"As of 3/30/2010, 3:04pm:

Of 55,325 eligible -- 5,167 have voted (9.34%)

  

This compares to 3/30/2009:

Of 56,067 eligible -- 6,286 had voted (11.21%)

On April 5, we (ALA) will begin sending email reminders to eligible voters who have not yet voted.  Polls close on April 23."

Let's get out the vote!! (VOTE NOW!!)

Here are my endorsements for ALA election.

ALA President: Molly Raphael

I had the opportunity to meet both candidates at ALA Midwinter and most recently at the Public Library Association Conference this past week. (More blog entries to come re: my PLA experience.)

My first encounter with Molly was when she spoke at the NMRT All Committee Meeting at ALA Midwinter. Both candidates had the opportunity to stump for herself to those that attended our Candidates Forum at this meeting. One of the things that struck me was Ms. Raphael's experience with pioneering library services to at-risk and underserved populations in the District of Columbia. Upon further reflection into both candidates' experience, I am casting my vote for Molly Raphael.

Intellectual freedom is an issue that strikes at the heart of our profession. Ms. Raphael's experience in this realm in addition to ALA BARC (Budget Analysis and Review Committee) and her commitment to strong relationships between school libraries and other outreach programs really sealed my vote.

I have a tremendous amount of respect for both of the candidates. Campaigning for office at the national level can be very difficult for even the stalwart of candidates. I am always impressed with the candidates the ALA Nominating Committee have chosen. Sara Kelly Johns would definitely bring an experienced voice to the plight of school libraries across the country, most recently in Los Angeles, California. The issue affects not only school libraries but public libraries as well. Public libraries are faced with rising use but dwindling budgets. Public libraries will be stepping further into the role of replacement school librarian as well.  I wish both candidates the best of luck and most importantly: VOTE NOW!!!

Do you want to change the face of ALA Council? Shakeup the lineup and add players into the mix that typically may not have a shot? Let's do this! (VOTE NOW!!)
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Have you ever read the candidate bios? There are quite a few remarkable leaders in our profession that are on the ballot for ALA Councilor at Large. 

1. Matthew Ciszek - I value his willingness to meet the challenges of a profession that has radically changed over the past 15 years. I have had the opportunity to meet with Matthew and feel he would bring a significant spark to ALA Council.
2. Kelly Czarnecki - I was impressed by her work with developing technology literacy for incarcerated teens. Outreach to the youth, especially in the area of technology literacy is key to the advancement and progress of our communities!
3. Loida A. Garcia-Febo - Loida's concerns encompass things that I am extremely passionate about: Intellectual freedom and international librarianship within a diverse/global landscape. I am duly impressed by Ms. Garcia-Febo's active commitment to the American Library Association in her various roles.
4. Larry Grieco - Another concern within the library profession that I think about is library services to rural communities. Larry will come to ALA Council with over five years of experience with rural/small libraries. 
5. Julius Jefferson - I am a "fanatic for fairness"as well. His recent presentation in 2008, entitled: "An Endangered Species: The Black Male Librarian," addressed the concerns of a dwindling diversity within our profession. We need more voices such as Mr. Jefferson.
6. Xudong Jin - Mr. Jin's work on projects such as the IMLS funded project entitled: Think Globally, Act Globally along with his work serving as President of the Chinese American Librarians Association should definitely considered as you place your vote.
7. Melissa Johnston - Often there are not too many candidates from the school library media specialist arena. Ms. Johnston's varied experience ranges from national programming events such as School Library Media Month to regional and state level leadership opportunities.
8. Mike Marlin - As more and more ability and access issues arise within the field of librarianship, I value Mike's role in addressing the concerns of library services to people with disabilities, especially serving our internal customers (our esteemed staff).
9. Jessica Moyer - I had the pleasure of working with Jessica on a co-sponsored program between RUSA RSS Marketing Reference Services to Users entitled "Marketing to Generation X" for ALA Annual 2007.  She is an intensely bright person that I feel has a lot to offer our profession not only through her publications and research but her passion for embracing shifts within libraries.
10. Cecilia Poon - Did you know that Cecilia established the APALA’s Mentoring Program with Sherise Kimura? Did you know that mentoring minority librarians is an issue that is near and dear to her? Two reasons why I'm voting for Cecilia Poon for ALA Councilor at Large.
11. Michael Porter - Many people know Michael through his work with David Lee King on addressing the concerns of an ever-changing landscape and evolving services of libraries. C'mon, let's vote for someone who can and will shake things up significantly on ALA Council!! VOTE NOW!!
12. Jacquie Samples - Two key points stuck out for me on Ms. Samples' biographical information: Her work with the American Indian Library Association and Association for Library 
    
    Collections & Technical Services. It also really rocked my socks that she mentions evolving and "leveraging ALA’s computing power in this digital age."
13. Kevin Scanlon - Youth recruitment efforts to promote librarianship! Addressing transparency concerns within the American Library Association and ALA Council! Youth access to materials & services! Kevin's experience with YALSA also sold me on a vote.
14. Sarah Smith - I had the pleasure of meeting her at the Federal Libraries Workshop. Sarah served as one of the organizers for this all-day pre-conference at this most recent ALA Midwinter in Boston. Sarah is serving as the president of her library school student organization at Simmons. I was especially taken by her passion to become more involved in the American Library Association.
15. James Teliha - I had the opportunity to talk with him at ALA Midwinter and I was taken by his enthusiasm to serve as an ALA Councilor at Large. His experience within the realm of Intellectual Freedom and his statement of Professional Concerns won my vote.

Casting an "Emerging Leaders" slate would also shake things up as well. - VOTE NOW!!

- Great job to NMRT Councilor Jenny Emanuel for creating a list of Emerging Leaders running for ALA office. So many awesome people on that slate too! Just remember to vote!!! - 

People that have experience on Council that I respect and think deserve your vote:

1. Doug Archer - Intellectual Freedom Fighter!
2. Gladys Smiley Bell - Ms. Bell has over ten years of experience on ALA Council working on issues such as ethnic librarianship.
3. Roberto C. Delgadillo -- Has significant experience with the Ethnic and Multicultural Information Exchange Round Table and REFORMA. In addition, a background in public and academic libraries. The balanced outlook that Mr. Delgadillo has on generational shifts in libraries is something that I value as a fellow Councilor.
4. Karen Downing - Karen has past experience on ALA Council and has been off for a while. During this time, she completed a PhD that investigated: "The Relationship Between Social Identity and Role Performance Among Academic Librarians." Additionally, her activities surrounding minority recruitment and the Spectrum Scholarship program swung me. 
5. Bernard Margolis - His cunning use of Sturgis Parliamentary Procedure leaves me smiling along with his wealth of experience as a gadfly and respected member of our profession. It is so unfortunate that he is going through a major health battle at the moment.
6. Melora Norman - Melora has been a strong supporter of issues such as electronic participation. I have appreciated her well-thought out contributions to various debates of the day.
7. Cristina Ramirez - I have had the pleasure of serving on Council with Ms. Ramirez. Like myself, she is a newish librarian. I have admired her outreach efforts within ALA and would like to see her shine a little more on Council.
8. Elizabeth Ridler - While I often find myself on the opposite end of the voting spectrum with her, I respect the balance that her outspoken opinion provides. Some of the issues she consistently rises in discussion relate to concerns regarding library services to people with disabilities.
9. Susan Roman - She has over 30 years in our profession but has only been on Council since 2007.
10. Bill Turner - Current chair of the Resolutions Committee. Extremely approachable and willing to assist those that want to propose resolutions - especially MEMBER RESOLUTIONS (Yes, VOTE NOW but also learn more on how YOU can write resolutions to present at an ALA Membership Meeting. Action/Participation + You = OMG Engaged Membership!!!) The ALA Governance page should have more information for you but it currently has a number of dead links. - Will report that ASAP. Still, email Bill or any member of ALA Council regarding Action Items YOU would like to bring forth to the membership. Anytime. We're here to serve YOU!

I realize that I did not list many of my esteemed colleagues that have a wealth of years of experience on Council. I respect their years of service and I truly desire to have an overall balanced Council. The unfortunate predicament we are facing within our profession is finding that balance between experience and giving other ALA members a chance to shine. It is my hope that my experienced picks do not offend and provide a balance to the "shake-up" list I provided above. 
For more information on the ALA Election, check out the ALA Election info page!

Stop the bickering in ALA!

I want to start posting more. I started multiple posts about getting laid off and my ongoing job search, but I kept feeling embarrassed to be writing about being unemployed, even while knowing that I have nothing to be ashamed of. It's just really weird to be unemployed.

I just made a comment on John Berry's article on anonymity and free expression. In an attempt to write more or at the very least publish what I write, I'm pasting the comment here.

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One of my major gripes within our profession are the self-created and self-imposed great divides. The techies and the non-techies, the old and sometimes seemingly entrenched and the young and sometimes impatient, social activists of ALA and those that think ALA should not take stands on things that they consider to be non-library issues, intellectual freedom champions and those that put their entire lives available for public consumption in addition to individuals that appear to be uneasy with the notion of anonymity.
By no means do I wish to present these issues as dichotomous and/or simplistic. I just find the gall of the various camps and their staunch vehemence that there
I sometimes wonder if we have far too much in-fighting to continue as a profession.
We need to not be so put off by those that do not see take an interest in b/vlogs, RFID technology, webinars and the like.
We need to be open to the suggestions of all while being willing to listen to the counterarguments without prejudice.
We need to stop thinking that our way is the best/right way.
We need to be willing to try something for a while, just to see if it works. If it does not,
We need to be working together as a profession as opposed to tearing down each other.
Work together to build our own automation systems, share advocacy tools, create searchable databases that rival corporate products in breadth and reliability,

I agree that Annoyed Librarian's blog entries should be anonymous. While I am not comparing Annoyed Librarian to Voltaire in style, I appreciate that both have written to critique
I, too, am not a fan of "obsessively self-revelatory librarians" and for better or for worse, I see that as the primarily accepted lifestyle within this profession at the moment.

I by no means think that I have all of the answers. I want to see libraries flourish and thrive for years to come. It has been devastating to see so many colleagues laid off and to read of numerous library closings. Perhaps I'm a bit shell shocked and skeptical of a continued prosperity and relevance of libraries. I honestly think that the bickering, passive aggressiveness, snark, stonewalling and overall conceited notion that is pervasive in this profession is what may be ultimately holding us back.